Behavior Charts, Unruly MexiJun Brothers & Jerry Seinfeld

Behavior Charts, Unruly MexiJun Brothers & Jerry Seinfeld

Tips & Tools Tuesday

Believe It or Not: They Are Related

Prayer First

Be with me while I work.
When I feel stressed, help me lift my eyes heavenward & breathe in Your peace.
When I feel tired, help me to allow You to be strength to me.
When I feel irritable, help me to draw near to You & fill up my heart with love.
When I feel inadequate, help me to live in Your grace and rest in the knowledge that You are with me.
When I feel down, help me to hear Your voice bringing new inspiration & insight into my life.
Be with me while I work.


Researching, Writing, & Rewriting

When I looked up from all the busy work I was piddling with and realized it had been a month since I published anything new on my blog I almost wanted to body-check myself. Now, tonight I find myself with a pencil & ruler drawing, yet another,  monthly calendar in my PSDP journal. When it suddenly dawned on me that I was building a behavior chart for myself all I could do was think of Mi’ijo & giggle.

At least I can enjoy a laugh about it, because it really is kind of ridiculous. I’ve been working on writing, buying new notebooks, organizing myself, intensely studying writing, & I’ve written through two Dr. Grip ink pens since I started this little endeavor. But there hasn’t been a new post in a month.

I can look back at every week over the past month. I was either dug down in research for particular post or studying something I already knew. I thought Pomodoro would help but it didn’t. As long as I FELT LIKE I WAS WORKING while the clock was ticking; what I was getting done and whether I had completed a post or not wasn’t relevant. Until I realized it had been a MONTH without a new story or bible study.

Studying, Designing, & Reformatting

Really, I loved working with WordPress University & should have signed up for Blogging 101 before building the blog, posting, or even rolling it out to my friends and family on Facebook. By the time I started I had already done every activity we learned in class in the process of setting up The Writing Wife’s Life.

Yes, I learned some valuable shortcuts using the class to set up the Therapy Writing blog I’m working on; but if I can’t get the rhythm of posting on one site right; what makes me think I’ll do better with a whole other blog to manage.

When I caught myself, yet again, spinning my wheels through the same sites, researching the same notes, but still haven’t finished the same post – I also realized it had been a month! I could only shake my head in disbelief while I examined the inner folds of my brain to see where the absolutely ridiculous ways I sabotage myself come from.

NO, “where” “why” or “what” NOT RELEVANT – “How to fix.” IS

I am upset with myself because I know what I want. I know how I want “it” to be. And I know how easy it will be for me to get “it” for us. AND, I have full faith that the writing in getting “it” will be the best part of the journey. But I STILL have to kick myself in the ass to do what it takes to get the words down.

What’s most frustrating is that it’s as if I have more fun researching and compiling notes. When it becomes time to put the notes and research together into a coherent piece I seem to get stuck and have a hard time getting out of my own way to do it. That realization is leading me in a different direction for this work of mine, but not giving up the blog thing, yet.

And remember now, I really don’t HAVE to be working like this. MyHusband thinks all of this is just hilarious as he is takes great care of us. He understands the writing thing but is leery about the blogging thing, and has been reminding me for a month now, that it’s not THAT CRUCIAL every time he sees me get frustrated.

I respond with “But I want to do well at this,” and get  back “Then why are you making it so hard on yourself.” He is right and just for not really wanting me to partake in an.activity that makes me so frustrated with myself. But, I don’t know how to make him understand the buzz I feel when I’m being WonderWife SuperHero Mom and conquering problems in the household, AND in the BlogWorld with my wisdom and teachings.

Why & How Indeed – A Square Solution

Researching (LOL, yes, research again) ways to be more productive and COMPLETE tasks; not just be busy for busy sake, led me to Lift, or “Developing a Daily Writing Habit,” & “500 Words a Day” and 30 Day Business Blog Challenge by Sarah Arrow. This way I might actually get into a daily writing habit that builds a business portfolio for freelance writing and editing jobs while I work on the novels I want to write.

Yes, more than one now. Are you kidding, they’re going to be awesome!!!

Provided I actually complete the writing of them. AND, that’s why I’m here.

So, anyway – all of that; those things that I desire so badly I can taste them; will only come into fruition if I put the words down in notebooks and type them into MicrosoftWord or WordPress, all the way through editing to publication.

Everyone already knows how I hold myself accountable.

So, now I’m asking you guys  to help out by holding me accountable for everything I tell y’all I want to write.If you are reading this and see me online check on me to see if I have followed through to publication today.

Make a comment or ask a question here to see if I’m actually working. Or connect with me on Facebook and we’ll talk a second or two.

I’m willing to bet that spending some time, during the day, answering messages, calls, or texts, and speaking to people other than PreciousGirl might actually drive me to actively work on writing the way I SHOULD.

I know, OCD backward. I am relying on calls & Social Media to keep me on task in a situation when most have to disconnect to complete tasks.

Bringing it back to Behavior Charts, Mi’ijo, & Seinfeld directed me not to “Break the Chain” in their daily instruction for the “Develop a Writing Habit” plan. “Don’t Break the Chain” is a tool that was part of the advice Jerry Seinfeld gave to Brad Isaac about writing and goals.

Seinfeld suggested a wall calendar that has a whole year on one page hung in a prominent place and a red marker to mark a big red X over every day that that the task or goal being worked on is complete.

The satisfaction of drawing a big red X across each square becomes motivation not to break the chain as a few weeks of X’s become visible on that calendar as a reminder.

The VERY IDEA of seeing all those perfect X’s connected corner to corner, in the direct center of every square of my ideal publishing/editorial calendar lit up the inside of my OCD/ADD brain like the bright neon lights of Vegas

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X Marks the Spot & Builds Good Habits


Of course that triggered the OCD part of my brain to say “let’s make some perfect squares for another calender. we need one more thing, maybe, to check off the box and get a complete post done, and recorded on paper. I bet that’ll get you on track.” Yes, it added another step into my writing process, and a WHOLE other planner – bringing the total to 3 or 4, depending how you count them.

Let’s Count & See How Many

  1. QuoVadis Text Agenda – Household management, receipts for important purchases, bills, important goals & upcoming plans like weddings and road trips.
  2. QuoVadis Scholar – Information for all online writing accounts such as WordPress & Social Media. Data on published posts like word count & final title work-up with URL, and any future posts I want to write and publish are penciled in.
  3. 1st of 2 Separate Monthly Calendars – drawn into PSDP/Journal – “Ideal Editorial Calendar” – coded with posts for the month; each one scheduled for each day along with the posts I want to write in order to build a working portfolio.
  4. OCD certainly not allowing such and IDEAL to be marked with Big Red X’ – How else do you think I realized how long it had been since I’ve followed through & actually published a post.
  5. 2nd of 2 Monthly Calendars – a lot less overwhelming to my ADD head with just OCD squares that I plan to X off every morning when I publish the post/posts I edit from the night before.
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May Have Been Too Overwhelming For ADD Brain


As I read the advice given by Seinfeld about building good habits and connect habit building with behavior modification I can only giggle about our Unruly MexiJun and the last Behavior chart I designed; as I come to conclusion that I just have to accept that in order to do this the way I want to do this is to follow the behavior plan, ahem Productivity Tool the way I designed it to see if it’s of any value to this whole Life Management Program I seem to be putting together as I work to improve myself & our lives.

It’s really funny that when we make them for ourselves they’re called productivity tools, but when we make them for unruly kindergarteners & to keep crazy bar friends out of trouble because they don’t want to leave the playground they are Behavior Charts.

I couldn’t help the giggles when I related the behavior chart – CALENDAR – I’m building today to the one we had down at Vista Lounge for our MexiJun when he would come in from being out offshore for 28 days on a tin-can with 6-8 other men.

He would hit the bar running, so ready to burn off all that testosterone & energy that it didn’t take us too many crew changes to build a behavior chart for him to manage the party when he was home. If there were special events & karaoke coming up and he wanted to sing he had to earn 5 Gold Stars that week.

And he was so proud of himself when he did. As proud as I’m going to be of myself as I begin marking off my chain of squares with my own perfect special X’s – better than Gold Stars because of the way they fit in my square.

Nope, I didn’t lie about High School during the Day & Adult Kindergarten at night. I can still enjoy being in Grade School myself.


Pomodoro Writing With OCD/ADD

Pomodoro Writing With OCD/ADD

Tips & Tools Tuesday

Managing OCD/ADD

Writing With Pomodoro???

Prayer First

Lord, you know what I have set myself to do. Guide me through this process one piece at a time. Give me peace in Your direction and the most positive way to guide others with Your blessings.


Time & Task Management Important

Remembering the “Why” is the Biggest Part

I have a very distinctive message I am compelled to share. I overcome obstacles to sharing my message with task management and time management in a system called Pomodoro. OCD perfectionism and reliance on routines and rhythms absolutely drives an ADD writer directly to the pits of procrastination

Pens, & Pencils, agenda & planning notebooks have to be in their place – just so – before any thought of work to begin.

Tasks and activities must be staggered in a rhythm that provides many different ways to complete goals to keep attention from falling down a rabbit hole.

Work always has to start at the hour – a 10 minute distraction from the hour and all productivity is delayed until the next hour begins.


Crazy things that can cause agitation and lead to anxiety, then maybe blahs, and DEFINITELY PROCRASTINATION. Time management and taming procrastination has taken time and effort to manage these few weeks.

The bonus of OCD is obsessing on the Distinctive Message I have to share. Without writing all those thoughts remain silent and no one gets the Message. That is the “Why” that has kept me from giving up so far.

Pomodoro Manages the Tasks & the Time

The first week of building time into this writing activity was a struggle in discovering the most productive time of work. Coming to terms with working late evenings after other’s bedtimes was the most important part of following Pomodoro because productive work time sets the work flow rhythm for the day.

Plan the work rhythm before beginning

The day begins with questions

  • What is the writing topic today?
  • What kind of walking day is Precious having?
  • How many inside household chores to take care of?
  • How long will it take to complete the outside chores?
  • What kind dashboard work is necessary for WordPress?

There are many activities in writing, researching, and managing this whole blog site thingie; not to mention those of running a household. Once the business of making a smooth path for husband’s daily walk with the lord is handled, writing work usually begins with a Research Pomodoro learning about the topic for the week.

25 minutes WORK and 5 minutes BREAK

One Pomodoro Rhythm

  • Research on the writing topic
  • Household chore inside
  • Writing and developing post
  • Household chore outside
  • Configuration and posting online

The pomodoro rhythms above provides direction for managing tasks throughout a day and leaves allowances in the plan for the long break that is scheduled every 3-4 rhythms. However, household chores are managed; placing them between the sitting activities keeps the brain and body in tune with focus and rhythm.

Break Time at the end of a Pomodoro Work rhythm

Be sure to complete the thought or action.

  • 25 minutes for an activity is not an exact science or rule. However, leaving any task incomplete is a classic trigger for ADD and must be managed.
  • Complete the paragraph
  • Finish reading the current research site
  • Complete final action in configuration to save
  • Finish sweeping, dishes, putting things away.

Complete the current task to the next logical “save” point and break for the next rhythm.

Plan heavy brain work during most productive hours

Complete tasks that require centered focus during high productivity.

  • As focus and drive change throughout the day, along with time needed to complete household chores schedule heavy brain work that requires more focal centering around productive hours.
  • Tasks easily completed in one pomodoro rhythm should be structure scheduled in pattern with household work
  • Things that require sitting through one or two pomodoro rhythms should be completed during the productive hours that can manage extended focus on one activity

In the afternoon writing, research and other dashboard activities that take longer to complete are easier to manage with working through 1 or 2 rhythms without a break. But the body must move after working through a sitting session longer than 30 minutes.

A simple 4 step process manages tasks and time with Pomodoro

  1. What are we learning about today?
  2. Plan for the rhythm of productivity and distraction.
  3. Complete quick & easy lessons and tasks within 25 minutes in rhythms with chores.
  4. Do heavy think work over 1 or 2 pomodoro rhythms and quick & easy chores during 5 minute breaks during high productivity hours.

Try using the pomodoro rhythm technique as I described to manage the tasks and time you have on the agenda.

Share this with anyone who needs assistance overcoming procrastination and time management issues.

Quo Vadis Planner Review

Quo Vadis Planner Review

Tips & Tools Tuesday

Two Planners for Organization???

Prayer First

Father, as writers, we investigate and imagine, pushing back boundaries and looking for new connections.

We throw ourselves into new worlds and create new characters.

You have broadened our understanding.

Thank you for imagination’s dew.

Copyright © 2014 Prayers for Writers, All rights reserved


Yes, Folks – Two Planners

Teaching Career Agendas & Planning

I remember how every August brought a sense of renewal and new “This Year” resolutions. As in, “This year would be better than the last.” I always felt the excitement about some new educational paradigm or classroom technology gained at summer conventions burbling inside me. Making Lesson Plans and planning Technology Workshops during August Faculty In-services felt exciting and rewarding. The new School Agendas, Discipline Plans and Lesson Plan Books every new school year held great promise for well, laid out plans and schedules. Until…

Personal Planners & Agendas

I have always used the Planner/Notebook system for my home organization. That was usually jotting some things down in a calendar that got lost and shuffled from purse to purse and a notebook full of grocery lists, story ideas, and incomplete things I intended to do, and usually forgot.

Organization and planning are better for me under the direction of my husband who uses calendars for goals, and lists. Managing our life has evolved my Planner/Notebook system into something workable as long as I am a stay-at-home-wife, and nothing more.

The notebooks are used for daily calls, paperwork, and things to do; lists my husband and I compile together. Agendas are for keeping financial and household documents current. Managing our household is full-time work activity in itself. Adding new work and more goals have put my old system to the test these past few years and I find myself seeking direction for time management again.

Opportunity Creates Change

New writing opportunities come with “get organized” fever. An old binder for a rival Time Management company engaged an online search for printable fillers or a filler specific to my needs that I can purchase.

Instead, I found Quo Vadis, the Quo Vadis Blog, and Plannerisms Blog. Ms. Doherty stated in the post that she was planning some updating on the Quo Vadis sites and needed product reviews. She asked that anyone who has written a product review in their blog or website, email questions and the link to their page or blog site for an opportunity to write a review. Writers would receive credit for their review that links directly to the reviewer’s blog from the Quo Vadis web site.

Full Disclosure:

Although I am reviewing two planners, I only purchased the Text Agenda. I received the Scholar planner for free in exchange for writing this review.

Two Planners?

New Things to Organize:

  • Puppy vet visits, shots, and training
  • Emails submitting my resume and writing sample for freelance work.
  • A Short Story Submissions & Writing Schedules.
  • Writing a WordPress Blog.

Text Agenda

I have never accomplished organization at this level before. Text Agenda opens like a diary, devoting a whole page to each day of the year. Each page is ruled for neat recording of notes, lists, and details of daily activities.

The Agenda opens to a facing title page, and personal information page.

Front Title Page

A July, 2015 –June 2016 yearly planner faces the personal info page.

Two Full weeks of Time Schedule Planner pages follow.

The two week plan can help college students manage 5 day/week classes

Weekly Time Scheduling
Weekly Time Scheduling

MWF Classes

Tu/Th Classes

The 2015-2016 Anno-Planning pages give a complete view of the year’s plan.

Daily pages

Daily Planning Elastic Book Mark
Daily Planning
Elastic Book Mark

Top is Scheduled from 8 AM – 7 PM

Allows for prioritizing of appointments, chores, and lists

Plenty of room for notes and details – no notebook needed

Personal Note:

Buying a calendar in August usually leaves a few blank calendar days at the beginning to allow for transition from one Academic year to the next. I write notes and information needed throughout the rest of the year, and may not fit under any given agenda topic, ie. Frequent websites and passwords.


Bottom Line:

Text Agenda is an awesome planning tool for anyone from Student, to Home maker, including Business people. It is ideal for people who live for daily activities without needing a schedule organized for planned activities that occur on a weekly basis. Any woman who is managing her household should consider purchasing this Calendar, Journal, and Scheduling tool.


Adding a second job to Home Management created the need for a second schedule. Women who work outside the home or participate in activities that require following a schedule through several days or weeks need the extra organization a weekly agenda would supply.

Scholar opens to a facing title page, personal information page.

Front Title Page
Front Title Page

Followed by an 8 AM-9 PM Time Schedule Planner for the week.

The 2015-2016 Anno-Planning pages give a complete view of the year ahead.

Weeks open in 2 page, viewing the full week from left to right that shows Monday as the first day of the week.

Daily/Weekly Planning
Daily/Weekly Planning

Days are in large block form and ruled for neat writing

Room for extra notes are at the bottom of the left side page.

See the personal note above for ideas for using extra calendar days at the beginning of

Anno-Planning Goals
Anno-Planning Goals

a new agenda.

Bottom Line:

Scholar feels like exactly the time management tool I need for organization of time AND information. With this agenda I have moved my blog from struggling for days to research, write, and publish my message to a weekly schedule of daily posts on specific topics. Writing those posts is easier with scheduling that leads from general topics to precise outlines that vary according to the subject matter of each post.

Side by side Comparison of Specs as on Quo Vadis Site
Side by side Comparison of Specs as on Quo Vadis Site


A side by side comparison shows two agendas, each more than suitable for its purpose, but when combined, they create a dynamic organizing and time management system that keeps even me on track.The Bound in Address Book found in Text Agenda should be added to the scholar and the Elastic Band Closure found on the Scholar Agenda should be added to Text Agenda.

Final Verdict:

Together, these planners are unbeatable time management tools.

Finding The Correct Song

Finding The Correct Song

Tip& Tools Tuesday

A Voice That Adequately Expresses the Joy I Feel

Prayer First

Lord, Release me from the issues that aren’t allowing me to reach my fullest potential. Bring positive words and verses to my post today and every day. Reach inside me and find the words to express the joy I have found through healing.


Finding the Right Voice

I am doing an enormous amount of research on writing this blog in a more positive tone. As I read back through my posts and see that some of them seem negative and whining. I do acknowledge that those posts were written early in the development of what this blog is becoming and reflect struggles I am facing as I find the voice, tone, and information I need to write these posts.

There are changes and developments that are evolving this blog into what I hope is a Teaching or Counseling Ministry through Bible Study. I have set a schedule in previous posts and continue developing it. My husband’s work week starts on Monday, so I have a new focus every Monday for the following week and the posts that follow on Saturday and Sunday of that week will try to focus on the same topic.WeekAs you can see my titles keep evolving around the OCD need for three with three words in each category for the day. That is one of the challenges I am trying to overcome. Another, stated in the title is the voice. I have looked at numerous resources on writing with a positive tone and using the active voice so there will be some changes, but I’m sure the voice and tone of all my posts will change, depending on my general feelings about each topic.

Positive Topics

The main thread of my blog is tied together in Studying and learning God’s will through the Bible. Monday’s Ministry will be focused on Marital needs and topics centered around Life as a Biblical Wife. Saturday posts are healing posts on Recovery from Abuse. Sunday is about Knowing God and Exploring Faith. Monday’s post will feature a focal topic for the week, the post on Monday, October 26 Centered on Living Virtuously. I am planning to focus on Living a Virtuous Life, through the month of November as I explore His word those who continue to study with me.

Forget The World Now We Won’t Let Them See

In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Can’t Drive 55.”

Third Line Of The Last Song You Heard

15 min Max

They were in his truck. It was really the first time they had decided to go away together for the weekend. It had been a rough week for her; dealing with nasty roommates and people with ugly attitudes and she just needed a weekend away at her freedom place. It’s a little tucked away in the woods and not a lot of people know about it. The best part was that there was a “no dress” dress code.

She saw how fastidious he was about most things and didn’t want to ruin this by showing him something she enjoyed that he might find distasteful. It was disastrous with the last relationship and she really didn’t want to risk it. It was early in their relationship so she decided It’s better happen now if it was going to happen. – 15 min here