Virtues of Proverbs 31

Virtues of Proverbs 31

Marriage Ministry Monday

Walking in Faith

Prayer First

And the Prayer of Faith shall save the sick, and the LORD shall raise him up; and if he have committed sins, they shall be forgiven him

James 5:15

Proverbs Model for Marriage

Living the virtues of Proverbs 31 means understanding that it was written as an ideal example of Godliness that all men and women should strive for. The verses describe an ideal woman of godly character as the ideal wife to give young men guidance in choosing a virtuous wife. They are also meant to be instructions for men to be better husbands. Following these virtues of Godly Life is not about being perfect; it’s about living a life of purpose, diligence, repentance,  and forgiveness.

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

-Proverbs 31:30-31

The Godly woman of Proverbs 31 wasn’t praised for her charm or beauty, she was praised for her fear of god. In the same respect, a married couple that takes everything to God in prayer is aware of their weakness, but has faith that they don’t have to be perfect to be loved by God. All they have to do is give themselves up to The Lord and their weaknesses will be covered on His strength.

And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.

-2Corinthians 12:9

Faith is knowing the only perfect one in this world is Jesus and we are made perfect through Him. Where we are weak, He is strong.

Faith Edifies A Biblical Marriage

As each one loves and serves Him with all of their heart, mind and soul, both seek God’s will for their marriage and follow his way. They walk together in faith and obedience, seeking fellowship with the Lord. When people work together to serve the Lord, God’s best is found.

Faith in God’s will is demonstrated in the marriage by submitting to God’s plan and seeking to be controlled by the spirit of God rather than flesh. Finding God’s will comes with maintaining faith with a relationship with Christ by seeking him on a daily basis through prayer and study.

Six Ways to Make Christ a Priority

  1. Daily Prayer – Take everything to God in Prayer.
  2. Study the Bible – To know His will, read His word.
  3. Keep the Lord’s  Commandments – As he instructs.
  4. Worship with other believers – Worship Him and worship each other in your marriage.
  5. Act on your faith – Faith without works, is dead.
  6. Share the Blessings you have received – What kind of blessings has living Godly given you

In a godly marriage, the primary goal for each other is Spiritual Growth that reflects Christ and His love. They take the time to build and nurture their physical relationship. Their marriage recognizably takes precedence above all other relationships, with the exception of their relationships with God. They also treat their faith freely and do not treat it as if it were a private matter.


What Does A Proverbs 31 Marriage Look Like Today???

What Does A Proverbs 31 Marriage Look Like Today???

Monday Marriage Ministry

Couples Who are Guided By Proverbs 31 are Easy to Recognize

Prayer First

Lord, only You, are aware of the love that waits in my heart for him as I have been so alone these past few years. I believe there is a perfect partnered soul for each one of us because Your word teaches this. In the book of Genesis You said that it was not good that man should be alone so you made a “help meet” suitable for him.
Your awareness of the powerful love that brings about the effort I put into  providing for my children is profound. Please use what you know in my heart of the strength of faith I hold on to as I raise my children to guide You in choosing the men You put in my path.
Providing for  my children is the driving force of my life so a man with a similar driving force in his life is sure to be understanding of our situation. Please guide him in a life that is worthy of gaining and keeping the great love I have to give. He should be a good father who loves his children enough to correct them when they are wrong and works hard to provide the best example of a walk that is worthy of the Lord. The husband you have chosen for me should be prosperous in his work. It may seem petty or greedy to place value on how a man who would be my partner makes his living, but the person I need in my life is a man who continuously strives toward success and is always learning ways to better himself.
Please give him enough self-worth and confidence that it will be an easy task for him to guide and protect me through life’s challenges. While, You know above all others that I am in dire need of a spouse who is loving and gentle in his affection toward me and our union. He should be able to live in full faith and trust of my love and work consistently hard to maintain my full faith and trust in his love.
Most important in this prayer letter to you, Lord that the partner of Your design for me be steadfast and constant in his love for me so that it never wavers. I need someone who remains steady and strong when my failings with anxiety and other issues arise, but generous with the blessings and reassurances I would need as a wife.

A Proverbs 31 Life is Spent in God’s Training

That was the last, most fervent, letter of prayer that I would write to God to place the right man in my life. I was praying for a virtuous husband in the same stilted and disjointed way that I learned of virtuous women, and had been praying for a worthy husband through what seemed like a lifetime of poor choices in men. I eventually realized that I often lost myself in these prayers by asking for a husband who felt my life was worthy of him without making sure I prayed for one who was worthy of me.

Today, I live in full awareness of the life I led and the path I walked as I reared my children. While it may not seem so virtuous to others due to career choices and other jobs I added to my work to supplement my income; the thought and effort I put into all my jobs made them honorable choices for me. With the continuous guidance of God, and the willing work I did; I lived as a Proverbs 31 woman before I knew of the value of such a woman. Today’s Proverbs 31 woman is a caring, strong, versatile individual who is capable of living in her own rights as she looks to God in her choices as she seeks to serve others, as I did by placing the driving factor of my life in what was for the benefit of my children, and giving them the best life in the most honest way while still serving the Lord as best we could.

Many Blessings Come From Living Virtuously

When I learned to pray for a love that was worthy of me as a woman, God placed him directly in my hands and he was easy to recognize. Men who live according to Scripture that sends them seeking such worthy wives walk with a certain gait that acknowledges their responsibility to behave as worthy husbands. His walk, speech, and general mannerisms looked to God in everything he did. The love and support he provided his children was obvious and added even more value to him as someone I should know.

For All the Days of Our Life
I Vow…

Today, virtuous women are easily recognized amongst the sea of sloth and sin in women who choose not to honor themselves and their families so righteously. He recognized her in me, as I did him, which led to us beginning the relationship we have today. The simple awareness that having a godly wife places him in a special place of worth by others who long for such a wife increases his consciousness of his walk with the Lord and encourages him to remain in such grace. My knowledge of a godly wife’s worth in God’s eyes and his stays my strength and resolve to continue my commitment to a virtuous life under the Lord’s watchful eye as well as my husband’s.

The intrinsic value of my husband is magnified amongst his peers and colleagues because my worthiness is seen as an enhancement to his. When we are seen in public our value seems to multiply because it is very obvious in his clothes and mannerisms that he has a good wife who takes great care of him. As others see the glow of love when  I look upon my  husband, he gains even more worth by the fact that if a woman of such virtue can look upon him with such love, then he must be a man worthy of the crown she places upon him; and someone they should get to know.

Characteristics of Couples who Live Proverbs 31

His Great Praise Increases Her Beauty

  • He recognizes how precious his wife is, and she glows with beauty that is enhanced by her faith in being the most valuable thing in her husband’s life.

Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies – Proverbs 31:10

His Trust Strengthens Her Commitment to God and Family

  • He knows he can trust her with all his heart because her commitment to god and her family makes her trustworthy, hardworking, and reliable and it is evident in her behavior that she is always looking out for his best interest.

The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. – Proverbs 31:11

His Reputation and Respect Increases as They Honor One Another

  • He gains a spotless reputation, is well respected as a leader in his home and in his community, and is appreciated for his wisdom and hard work as he provides for his family which is made easier with a hard-working woman at his side.

Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land. Proverbs 31:23

They Live Gloriously, Basking in the Joy & Praise of Each Other

  • He lives to praise his wife and holds her in regard as more precious and wonderful than any other woman in the world. Her accomplishments are recognized by her husband and children in ways that validate her faith that his eyes, thoughts, and actions will only ever be for her because he doesn’t need anyone else after finding the most godly woman of all.

Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. Proverbs 31:28-29

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A Blessed Marriage Begins With a Virtuous Woman

A Blessed Marriage Begins With a Virtuous Woman

She Must Also Walk In Full Faith & Knowledge of Her Value

Proverbs 31:10-1210Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. 11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. 12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

Nanny: A virtuous woman. She walked in full faith and knowledge of her worth on this earth and her value to god.

Those simple words on the value of a virtuous woman has been something I strived for since the first time I heard myself read it. Before this time in my life I wasn’t really a bible reader. We went to church on Sundays when we did, even through my first marriage. I was divorced and maybe in my 2nd or 3rd year of teaching; at least 33 years old when Nanny passed away.

Nanny was my Godmother. In South Louisiana 60’s and 70’s Catholic Religion standards placed Godmother & Godfather in charge of a child’s spiritual, and religious development if something were to happen to the parents. They were also the go-to people in the event of the death of their Godchild’s parents. Essentially a spare set of parents who would raise that child in the event… and Nanny mothered me as her own for a large part of my formative years, weekends and summers through school, and even through my teenage years.

The first church service I remember attending was with them. It feels like I was 8 but might have been younger as I remember being very curious and looking at and questioning everything. I remember that I was such a brat Brother even got agitated with me that day. Brother and I were the youngest two, so Nanny made us sit next to her and it got a little out of hand when he started picking on me about asking so many questions, and she had had enough. She grabbed hold of me in a stern little shake of my arm with a pinch, and a whispered scolding, “You behave yourself here, this is mass and you don’t misbehave in front of God.” I certainly checked myself but the only thing I remember feeling for the rest of that service was shock and awe. My whole view of “Church,” the service, and Nanny shifted at that moment. I just knew we were in a place of importance and wonderment. We had to be, because Nanny had never placed such high value on my behavior before.

Even now, I know I was generally given and allowed whatever I wanted. Yes indeed, I was a spoiled brat, and they all spoiled me in each their own way. Parrian wasn’t able to have a second to shuck an oyster or skin a catfish if I knew about it, and let me go at it with patience that often came from a high ball drink, and I always over poured the whisky when he would let me fix it in the evenings. I see where I probably gave his nerves a lot of reasons to need that drink. Jr, Big Brother, even now, just the coolest ever, like the TV big brothers. Much older than me and way more “grown up” at his 16 to my 8 than should have been allowed, think of James Dean but not so greasy, it was the 70s. Sister’s 16 to my 10 was what I wanted to be at 16. She had her own job, always looked put together and loved me enough to let me and AllieCat get away with smearing all of her Teen Beat and Tiger Beat posters with lip gloss. She was a big influence in my desire to write also, or at least her “True Story” magazines were. And Brother had four years on me just the right amount of years that could aggravate an older brother. Imagine my 8 to his 12 and know he loved me as much as he tormented me; just the way big brother’s were supposed to. The best of it was that Nanny’s special love and guidance was always there. She’d check me if I got out of hand, mostly managed with that “look” every mother learns how to give, even in my 20’s while going through a divorce. I was always sure of Nanny’s love, a security I had nowhere with no one – Nanny’s love was the only honest love I knew. Nobody knew that but me so I still keep her love close. 

I see where it seems like I’m describing a kind of Donna Reed TV show, and looking back at my memories does give them a “larger than life” prominence. I am aware of everyone I had in my life as I was growing up and fully recognize that I only knew that kind of love with them. No other home or family involved in my life even came close to the love I felt from this family of mine, until my love for my children and current husband. That very fact says they deserve to be “larger than life” in my memories.

I knew I was “something special” in this family, and felt every bit of it in their love, especially the beautiful, pure, love and guidance Nanny gave me. Looking back, I see where I soaked up all the love Nanny gave me in every way. I needed it in ways no one else knew and often lived for it when I didn’t get to run off to Nanny’s any time I wanted.

I have to give respect to the pain that that was in the love this whole family gave me. Knowing their extraordinary loss and the pain that was in their hearts, yet still feeling special in their love, especially Nanny’s takes their strength and love to another level for me. As a mother, I have to say, the love I received from Nanny had to be some kind of special magic love because I don’t know if I could have continued living, much less loving another child with the same love I remember coming from her if I had lost a child in such a way. I recognize today, the pain and loss of broken hearts that were never repaired properly, and fully acknowledge how much more their love means to my life to feel so special in this home that lost a child and still cared enough about me to love me and show me the love of God.

I want to say that I don’t feel like I ever tried to replace her or even that I was her replacement. I feel like I placed her high in esteem with a kind of reverence as I grew up that I still feel today. Yes, my crazy OCD head reels through imaginary adventures WE would have had growing up together. Knowing our life growing up there tells me she would have been the coolest hippie chick friend I ever had. Knowing that great loss and how I always felt so secure in Nanny’s love says to me that I would have felt her love for me the same way, with the same value I felt then even if there had been no accident. The love, Mothering, and guidance Nanny gave me was the most pure and probably the only real open, loving, affection, I recall feeling growing up. Nanny taught me a love I’ve only felt with my children and husband since and her loving guidance is still with me as the example I follow as a virtuous woman.

When Sister informed me of her passing and that I was chosen for a reading at her mass I honestly didn’t feel that I could do it and made sure she gave me the verses I would be reading in enough time to prepare myself to speak of her and her passing. It was an honor that they wanted ME to speak, but I was shaking, terrified. I knew how many people I would be facing at her service and that everyone in attendance felt loved by her, and love for her, the same way I did. The mere thought had me sick, nervous and I knew I had to find a bible because I WAS NOT going to mess that up. Every word said properly and no stuttering or stammering. I had never replaced the bible I left in my marriage and divorce and ended up at my mother’s house asking her to help me look it up in her bible. I hoped she would be able to explain it to me if I didn’t get it. Even though I WAS going to mass every Sunday at that time; and my boys were also altar servers, my relationship with the Bible as God’s word consisted of verses said at mass and explained by the priest as he gave his homily. My single-mother lifestyle at that time focused on my boys and left no time for trying to read and understand the bible, until that moment.

We found the verse and I began to read it aloud to my mother. “Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies.  The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her…” My mother stopped me with a gasp and shudder to tell me that I had better practice those verses and know them. “You’re going to have to say that in front of the whole family and everyone who loves her. That tells too much truth about who she was and if you don’t know it by heart seeing everyone upset at knowing this and losing her is going to upset you.” I went out and got a new bible that night. My Nanny was such a great virtuous woman, even my mother admired her for that. To get that from her, a woman who knew how to place herself above others, brought back to me just how special and wonderful Nanny ALWAYS was and I began working on myself so that I was as close as I could get to the virtuous path my Nanny walked.